🌅touch path

we likely work hands-on.

pleasure & arousal are welcome & invited here—our intention is to make space for them. we're likely to work with crystallized intentions, creating clear frames & agreements.

we work with methods from sexological bodywork—e.g. pleasure exploration, the wheel of consent, genital/ anal massage or mapping, self-pleasure witnessing & coaching, assisted self-pleasure, erotic ritual massage.

we work outside usual paradigms of attraction & relating. this may feel odd—and it helps us investigate. the touch can have many qualities: arousing, playful, tender, grief-ful, inquisitive.

🌘talk path

we likely stay hands-off.

we work with a general intention and follow what emerges. we're more likely to work with practices from generative somatics, or pieces of somatic experiencing™ (which i am a student of.)

we are more likely to provoke activation, touching on uncomfortable experiences. we connect in the cracks, facing and being with what arises—allowing your body’s natural knowing to emerge as it guides you towards wholeness & healing.

i’m there as an extension of your nervous system, to support you by slowing down & making more space to explore.

socialised as a human being in a human-centric age, i have a tendency to prioritise human matters first and see myself as separate from the rest of life. this is part of what is making me/you/earth sick. i am learning to view myself as earth first—connected with all that's more-than-human, and i bring this invitation into our research spaces. 

i believe that healing can't happen without addressing and connecting with the collective, systemic & planetary aspects of a system. some things that are making me/you/earth sick started long before our lifetimes. (to truly shift those, we need to be many more bodies, connecting, caring & dreaming through a long period of time.) what we—you & me—can try and do together is be part of that wave: acknowledge our conditions, examine the ways our bodyminds usually react to them, and slowly create more possibilities to become more response-able.

there might be parts of you—and of me—who've internalised messages from oppressive systems with the hopes that this would keep us safe. for a while, it probably did. but then came another message that we are somehow not as we should be, that we should change ourselves to fit. those messages are not ours, and the parts trying to protect us by complying with them have far more important things to do. let's meet them together, with love & compassion.

your body holds the answers. the systems that have taught you&me that our bodies are the problem—capitalism, binary gender, colonialism, patriarchy—they are the problem, harming you, me and our earth~body. these systems will always encourage us to drain our energy through punching inwards, downwards and sideways. i want us to observe the water we swim in. i will tell you over & over again: your body is right just as it is.

the contained environment, slowness and continuous communication we work with can allow for complex emotional states—ones that might stay hidden in other settings—to surface and be held. together, we try and come into being with these, at a pace your nervous system can process.

how can we accept what we can't change ~ while working together to change what we can? how can we tell the difference between what is already manifested (can we be with that?) and what can be prevented? how can we be of support in a process of larger-scale transformation & systems change?