SELF-PLEASURE COACHING:

a list of common suggestions


take what you need from this list and leave the rest.

here's a reminder that everything is an invitation that you can take/leave/adapt/modify/mix in any way ~ including these suggestions. whatever serves your intentions and well-being. this is your container :)

  • Stand up and move while you masturbate.
  • Stretch while you masturbate.
  • Blindfold yourself.
  • Play with different breathing rhythms: Four Breathing Techniques
  • Play with your PC muscles and sphincters (eg. clench when inhaling, release when exhaling)
  • Take breaks when reaching high arousal/pleasure
  • Touch yourself with both hands.
  • Massage your body with one hand while you masturbate with the other.
  • Sound off when masturbating
  • Handless masturbation (for example, with a Magic Wand tied/mounted to the corner of a table.)
  • Using porn? Turn off the video as soon as you are aroused.
  • Do you put on music/candles/scent?
  • Do you dance?
  • Look at yourself in the mirror. Gaze into your eyes as your own lover.




More examples for intentions

I want to learn new ways to pleasure myself.
I want anal play to be a part of my masturbation experience.
I wish to increase sensation in my body during masturbation.
I don't want to feel shame during masturbation.
I seek a positive body image.
I wish to be satisfied with the way I masturbate.
I wish to feel a connection between my heart and my genitals.
I want to be able to consciously circulate erotic energy throughout my body.
I seek integration of my sexuality and my spirituality.
I want to be clear why I masturbate.
I wish to manifest with erotic energy. (sex magick coaching)
I wish to bring masturbation into my relationship with my lover.
I want to be able to initiate masturbation play with others.
I wish to perform masturbation rituals.
I wish to be able to make sounds during solo sex.
I wish to feel the difference between excitement and enjoyment.
I wish to learn masturbation as a celebration of self love.
I wish to experience masturbation as gateway to altered states.
I wish to practice masturbation as a meditation.
I wish to experience a new way of being sexual.
I desire to be witnessed, to be seen as an erotic being.
I want to find friends I can masturbate with.
I wish to feel like a person with different biology feels masturbating.
I wish to learn to masturbate without fantasies.
I want to learn to place my attention.
I want to develop mindfulness skills.